✨ My Journey Started Like Yours — With Questions
If you were lucky enough to have adults around you who were honest about life & sex, I believe you had a greater head start than most of us.
I’ve talked to those people — folks my age — who grew up with open conversations, free from shame & hellfire. But for many of us? It just wasn’t discussed. Especially not with children. Because who could believe that kids are sexual creatures?
I always challenge adults to be real about who they were — & how they were raised. Curiosity is a part of life. It always has been.
So, when I say my journey started like yours, I mean this:
We all ask the same questions eventually — Who am I? Where do I fit? How do I make an impact? Or even… how do I just live in peace until the day I no longer open my eyes?
And whether we like it or not, sexuality plays a role in those answers.
It shapes how we connect, how we express ourselves, & how we experience life.
Let’s be clear — reproduction may keep the species going, but done right? Sex is a whole lot more than that. It’s joy. It’s power. It’s possibility.
Why live in a world where you can’t explore your curiosities?
Be bold. Ask your questions. And when the answers show up — be ready to explore them.
It’s up to you.
I’ve invested years & resources into unlearning the bullshit so I could help others without them having to break themselves first.
And for those who want to go further, I’ll be offering a path to become a coach, too.
🔥 Who I’m Doing This For
I’m doing this for my mother — because she deserves to live her retirement fully, boldly, & free from shame.
I’m doing this for my daughter — who, yes, is a teen & highly embarrassed by me — but who will grow up knowing better, because I chose to do better.
Most of all, I’m doing this for me.
Because I am still growing, still learning, still evolving.
And if this truth is real for me, it must be real for others.
So, then I decided to do it for you too.
🖤 This Is Bigger Than Me
I built this movement.
I curated a high-end, intentionally designed space called The KNKY Lounge — a place where adults can talk, learn, & experience sexuality in real life.
Rooted in celebration of Black, Indigenous, & People of Color — & welcoming to all — it’s a space to break the generational curses that have kept us silent, ashamed, & disconnected for far too long.
This isn’t just sex ed.
This is a revolution. A homecoming. A reclamation.
If you’re ready to unlearn the lies, to show up differently, & to make decisions that honor who you really are — then keep reading.
Your time is valuable. So is your future.
Let’s make both count.
— Shani (Sha-nay) B.B. Jones.
Certified Sex Coach. Lifestyle Strategist.
Breaker of Bullsh*t. Builder of Liberation.
Each of us has a story to tell.
And it’s up to us to share it — out loud.
Because the only way we truly learn is through our experiences with each other & the world around us.
We’ve accepted that life comes with death.
But too many of us forget the part in the middle — the living. The part where you choose what to do with your pain, your pleasure, & your power.
We all know someone who keeps hoping things will change — but never actually moves.
And let me be clear: I’m not here for stuck energy.
I’m not religious, but I am spiritual. I talk about the Universe a lot because I believe everything is connected. And if you’re reading this right now, I believe it’s because you were meant to — for one reason or another.
What you do with this moment?
That’s on you.
